Recently, Dr. Mercola posted this awesome list that I just love! It is the top 10 things children really want their parents to do with them, from children around the world. The results remind me of the times my own Mom would do such things and made my life as a child so delightful.
Many moms today feel as if they are not good mothers unless they are racing around, shuttling their children from lessons to practices, and back to lessons again. What do you think matters most to your children? You driving them to lessons and practices? Or the smile and hug you greet them with after school?
If you guessed the latter, you are correct.
Children are incredibly wise and tend to see the world more simply than we do. Perhaps it is time we start taking their advice.
Here is a list of the top 10 things students around the world said they desire most from their mothers.
Come into my bedroom at night, tuck me in and sing me a song. Also tell me stories about when you were little.
Give me hugs and kisses and sit and talk with me privately.
Spend quality time just with me, not with my brothers and sisters around.
Give me nutritious food so I can grow up healthy.
At dinner talk about what we could do together on the weekend.
At night talk to me about anything: love, school, family etc.
Let me play outside a lot.
Cuddle under a blanket and watch our favorite TV show together.
It has been a few months since reading The Unschooling Handbook by Mary Griffith but since its contents are still resting on my mind, I thought it worthy to share its qualities with others.
As a unconventional home schooler as a child myself, I was very intrigued in this insightful style of learning when first hearing of unschooling a few years back. But I didn’t do much research because I had no children at the time. After our daughter Ani was born, the passion for learning was sparked in our house and I really wanted to know more about this “unschooling method.”
Its really quite easy to understand, at least it is if your main desire is for you children to learn well, enjoy learning and know how to learn. If your main goal is to compare your child with standards, fill up workbooks, have readers at age 5, and other conventional ideals then unschooling is really hard to grasp.
I love how Mary Griffiths shares with her readers that children as well and adults for that matter learn best when allowed to pursue their interests and curiosities in their own time frame and environment. Everyone has a natural desire to learn but tend to loose much interest when forced to learn a certain subject a certain way, within certain time frames and while sitting still. Unschooling makes the WHOLE world your classroom. No unschooling family matches another unschooling family in their use of books, crafts, science experiments, media, the great outdoors etc. As each child is different all families learn differently and at very different time tables. Some children who unschool will only master reading when they are 8 but the concept is that THEY mastered it because they wanted to and because they put forth the effort they mastered it well. Mary Griffith does an excellent job compiling first hand accounts from unschooling students and parents as well as helpful resources for those interested.
Parents and skeptics are worried that some children will just be plain lazy and never amount to anything if not forced to some degree. But according to Griffith and the many families who contributed to the book state that all children can really go only a short time before becoming uncomfortably bored with sitting around watching tv. Eventually all children run to activity, inspiration, discovery, and learning. Also, many claim that parents don’t have to do anything to help their children grow and learn when they unschool. But the truth is quite the contrary. The parent must be the facilitator and make the commitment to learn with the child. Curious questions from little voices can not be ignored even if the parent has no idea how to answer. The parent must be willing to search out the answer with their children.
The Unschooling Handbook has chapters on reading writing, math and science as well as a resource chapter and info on college bound youth. Griffith includes ideas from parents from all backgrounds as well as single parents. It is a fascinating and yet simple book that really ignites the passion for learning in the whole family.
From my own experience with unschooling so far I must say I am so impressed and inspired when I see its results. My daughter will be three tomorrow. We read tons of kids books from the library and I read chapter books out loud some nights while she listens. She draws endless pictures of people and animals. We explore outside when weather permits and visit our goats. There never seems to be enough puzzles in the house. We do watch movies on netflxi and youtube. We do crafts everyday and play together with her little babies. I spend many rest times telling her stories. In all of these areas I have not pushed or had ulterior motives, I simply exposed a few things to her to see if she was interested. What she shows interest in has changed a little every month and it is fun to see her blossom in new things. At one point I tried encouraging her to play with magnetic letters, teaching her sounds, but she wasn’t interested. So I let it go and kept the letters on the fridge. It is amazing now to watch her walk over a grab a letter, mention the name or sound after she sees it in a book I’m reading her. It amazes me when she grabs a book and pretends to read to me. And to top it off, a few days ago I saw she had drawn a bird and next to she wrote “Bid.” O have never taught her that bird started with a B nor have I ever taught her how to spell it. Somehow she took note of the word when it was associated with a bird. I look forward to the days ahead and will update our unschooling news as she grows.
If there was a power outage in your neighborhood for the length of a day, how much of your household appliances and gadgets would be useless?
After a few good outages the past few years, I’ve grown to dislike the electrically powered appliances and tools we own. These include both small and large items such as, a sewing machine, a hot water heater, a grain grinder, an oven, a washer and dryer etc. It’s not that I don’t appreciate electricity. I don’t doubt how wonderful the invention of electrical current is. However, I think that independent solar/wind/water generated power is the ideal situation.
But we do not live in an ideal world. Many are unable to attain independent homemade power because of cost and lack of knowledge and resources. But because of the days in which we live, I believe it is foolish to rely on our local power plants. One small step at a time we should move closer to owning and using non-electric tools and appliances around the house. I also must make mention that I do not just want to make do with the products we find at Wal-Mart. It is essential that we find items that will last a lifetime.
My own list of ideas include:
Learn to enjoy sewing by hand, become very proficient at stitching fast and very well. I’ve heard stories that our great-grandmothers sewed beautiful small perfect stitches that created durable clothing, quilts and crafts.
Use a clothesline during warmer months, and a indoor drying racks throughout the year.
Use dry land farming irrigation techniques for garden instead of relying on well water being pumped.
Make lots of homemade candles and invest in an Aladdin lamp or other non-electric lighting
Learn to work with leather, investing in a few essential leather tools.
Eventually invest in all the expensive items such as, a wood burning stove for heating and cooking, non-carpeted floors dismissing the need for a vacuum, a hand-pump for the water well and a gas fridge and a well designed root cellar.
More thoughts to come. Please share anything you have found or thought of.
Who says you need to buy a pricey wood doll house in order to hours of creative fun?
Ani and I spent a short morning recycling and crafting a Costco oranges box using craft paper, glue, string, and a hole puncher. I did not have any strong tape on hand for supporting the second floor and roof so instead I used the hole puncher and some string to inforce the walls. Putting my mothers age old advice to use: ”Nessesscity is the mother of invention,” we managed to put together a nice strong cardboard box doll house. To make it more homey, we used some craft paper to cover up the Costco advertising plastered all over the box. Ani added her own dolls and furnishings and in the end she now enjoys her own unique doll house. Be creative and make your own out of what you have around the house. And have fun making a mess with your little one.
It has been many months since I last acknowledged my poor blog. Long story short, my previous part-time job stretched my energy and time far too much. After doing my tasks for work I only had enough will power left for loving on my own family trying desperately to still rightly nourish my loved ones.
Thankfully, I no longer have a part-time job but I do have new work before me. My body is housing and nourishing a new little one due in the heat of the summer. We are so excited to have another child on its way, even though currently I’m still struggling with morning sickness and crazy food cravings and aversions.
But, morning sickness shall pass, life shall go on and recently I have realized that antlife shall go on. Why? Because of the emails I have received from folks near and far who have questions, those seeking information and encouragement in goat milking, sewing, whole foods, unschooling and the like. It is important for those who have helpful wisdom to open their mouths or in this case type a few words inorder to share with others in need. I have learned so much needed info by searching other’s sites and applying their ideas to my own life.
In the near future, I look forward to adding more content on both sheep and goat milking, new recipes, family life, sewing ideas, as well as unschooling. I am also excited to delve into working with leather from the inspiration of my daughter’s small wool and leather moccasins.
Each day while milking my Saanen goats, I’m reminded of all the reasons we have these wonderful ruminate animals around our homestead. Years ago when first being acquainted with goats, I met the large eared Roman nosed, Nubians; a very popular dual purpose breed in the US. Sadly the impression Nubians gave me discouraged my desire to ever own a goat. They were loud, rough, stubborn, and always trying to escape.
This spring, I was given my first of three Saanen goats and boy, did my impression of goats change. Saanens have a remarkably different demeanor than any other goat I’ve met. I’ve had experiences with Pygmies, Norwegian dwarfs, Nubians, and Angora. These light haired Swiss Saanens are known for their relaxed, mild temperaments, even regarded by some as living marshmallows. Of course, they are heavy milkers and can be used for meat, but after being around my three goats for just one summer I’ve found there are other reasons Saanens are important for homesteaders.
Each day in spring and summer, I receive about 1 gallon of milk from each Saanen. As the days grow shorter they tend to give me less. We are considering breeding our two older goats this November then breed the youngest in late winter, allowing for a year-round milking cycle. With the abundance of milk, after drinking to our hearts content, I make yogurt of kefir (an awesome probiotic) and then freeze the rest either as homemade soft cheese or simply as milk. I have not yet made hard cheese but I do look forward to mastering that skill soon. Recently while reading a library book about food from the middle east, I found that there is a certain tribe in Arabia that consume strictly goats milk for several months out of the year, when their goat’s milk is the only thing available for them. If a wide scale food crisis arose, milking goats would be a precious as gold, fresh daily milk that the whole family, even the very young can survive on.
While Saanens are usually bred for milking they do still make good meat for a family. After kidding, keeping the abundance of goats is not always realistic. The farmer must consider which goats will serve the families needs best and either sell or butcher the rest at the appropriate age. Again, in a time of serious need, a family with an abundance of goats will fare better both in the aspect of milk and meat.
Recently, I learned that goats can carry a 1/4 of their own body weight and have been used efficiently as pack animals for sportsmen. One thing to remember is the very quite mild nature of Saanens, making them well suited for such a task. This summer I discovered how easy it is to keep your goats in your view. It is really so easy. Goats think of the farmer/milker as the “lead goat.” When you move to the left, they quickly move to the left. When taking my goats farther from their usual path they watch my every move and stay close by even while looking for the most nutritious greens.
Unlike sheep, horses, mules etc, goats thrive on forest brush, pine needles, bark, and many other wild plants naturally indigenous in North America. You would not need to carry feed for your goats if you allow them to eat along the way.
Though, I have yet to butcher any goats, my fellow goat-owner friend speaks of the usefulness in using the goat’s hide for rugs, upholstery and any other “leather” needs.
We happen to live on land with areas of brush overgrowth, making it difficult to put up fence or even get to specific berry bushes. Thankfully, goats do an excellent job clearing land, making paths and opening areas for the farmer to use.
Goat manure makes excellent free garden fertilizer! Keeping your goat yard clean, can later help your garden.
Lastly, goats can be taught to pull carts. Goats are strong for their size (just try to tackle one to the ground to trim their hooves). They do not require as much space nor feed as horses, cows, and mules. While they need less, they can be very useful for pulling light loads.
We use coconut oil for more than cooking at our house. With the naturally occuring anti-bacterial, anti-fungal, anti-viral and anti-candida properties, coconut oil is a good friend in our home. Remember, coconut oil is not a bad fat, though for years it was given a bad rap. It is full of saturated fats and medium chain fatty acids which are very important for your brain, heart and digestion. See Mary Enig’s A New Look at Coconut Oil for more info on the health benefits of coconut oil. Also see Research on Coconut Oil for info on the negative campaign against coconut oil.
Here are several uses for extra virgin coconut oil:
Lotion Coconut oil not only moisturizes your skin, it heals and protects it. When applied topically, coconut oil absorbs into you skin and through your cells, protecting the skin from sun damage and free-radicals formation (which is what ages your skin). It leaves your skin soft, by moisturizing and removing dead skin cells. Many have found relief using it for skin diseases, sores and wounds when applied topically, because of its anti-bacterial nature.
Hair Care Use coconut oil to control dandruff as well as moisturizing your scalp and ends by rubbing through your hair before washing. Every few months I spread it though my hair, put my hair in a braid and allow it to moisturize as I sleep. The next morning wash and style your hair as usual. It works wonders!
Lubricant Coconut oil is an awesome lubricant both for squeaky doors and intercourse. Try it, it works great!
Yeast Infections The natural anti-bacterial/fungal properties make coconut oil perfect for applying on yeast infections. It is safe for both internal and external use as well as using while pregnant (when most women are prone to yest infections).
Candida When taken internally, beginning with a minimal amount and gradually increased, coconut oil helps kill candida. Candida thrive on carbs, so while using coconut oil for killing candida, limiting carbs is ideal. If you suspect you have candida, see a list of Candida Symptoms as well as Bee’s Healing Plan
Animals Recently, I just tried using coconut oil for my chickens. I noticed some very watery stools coming from several of our new chickens, I sprinkled a few teaspoons of coconut oil over their feed. That was several days ago, and since then I haven’t seen any fresh watery stools. Coincidence? Not likely with how well coconut oil kills bad bacteria!
Teet Rub Instead of dipping my goat’s teats in a store bought solution before milking, I rub coconut oil over her teets as well as my hands. I do make sure to wash her utters first with a rag that has been sterilized under boiling water. My method is: wash with rag, rub with oil, milk with hands. Coconut oil is the perfect thing to use for utters, and breasts for that matter, it moisturizes while it cleans.
Diaper Rash Diaper rash is usually a sign of an allergy either from foods or from a certain diaper brand or soap. However the occasional rash can be treated with coconut oil and then allowing the bum as much access to air as possible.
Beard Moisturizer My hubby specifically wanted me to mention how well coconut oil works on softening his beard. It really is nice to touch his beard after using coconut oil…especially for kissing! He usually rubs coconut oil on his beard during his shower or before bed.
In order to simplify meals in our house, for breakfasts and snacks we make up a warm bowl of gluten free porridge. Having the same thing for breakfasts may seem boring but in reality it is a comfort that never leaves me wondering “what will I make for breakfast today”? My dear husband prefers his Gluten-Free Coconut Granola but my little one and I eat this hot cereal instead. And have enjoyed it for almost a year now without getting tired of it.
In Africa, some tribes eat millet porridge every single day and sometimes at every meal. They are very healthy and thriving because they prepare their grains and seeds in a way that increases nutrient absorption and digestibility. Eating porridge with raw milk, butter or coconut oil, sea salt and a small amount of natural sweetener like raw honey or stevia and an added egg makes for a complete meal.
As a kid we ate grits all the time but with a high metabolism, I always got hungry after an hour. We ate our grits with sweetener but no butter. Unfortunately carbs do not hand on long but the attition of fat causes them to not only fulfill hunger longer but also assist in slowing down blood sugar levels. Growing children especially need good fats like eggs and coconut oil in order to be healthy.
Here is how we prepare our Everyday Porridge: First choose which grains or seeds you like to use. Quinoa, Brown Rice, Buckwheat, are just a few to choose from. For two people I grind about 3 cups of grain each week for our porridge. I store the flour in a jar in the fridge and take what I need each day. For brown rice and buckwheat it is not critical to soak your flour over night but amaranth, quinoa and millet must be soaked overnight (See: Why Soak Grains and Seeds).
For Unsoaked Grains: For 1 serving, Place about 1 cup of cold water in a saucepan. Sprinkle about 1/2 cup ground grains into the water and stir in one egg. Heat over medium heat until thick. Add desired raw milk, sea salt, sweetener and fat (butter or coconut oil). Do not skimp on the fat, that is your body’s longest burning fuel!!!
For Soaked Grains: Stir soaked mixture into about 1/3 cup of water and proceed with directions above.
Normally, for breakfast and snacks I eat my Everyday Porridge recipe but occasionally I sneak a small bowl of my hubby’s gluten-free granola. Here is a recipe I perfected for him since he dose not care for porridge. He likes it warm out of the oven with milk. As always, feel free to adapt and experiment as you wish.
2 cups shredded coconut, unsweetened
1 cup gluten-free flour from ground brown rice, buckwheat, corn or quinoa
1/2 cup seeds (flax, sesame, hemp etc)
1/2 cup butter
1/4 cup extra virgin coconut oil
1/2 cup organic peanut, cashew or almond butter
1/2 cup honey or sucanat
1 teaspoon sea salt
1 teaspoon vanilla
Note: if you are using corn, millet or quinoa flours, it is important to soak the flour for several hours in an acidic environment (see Why Soak Grains). Soak 1 cup of flour in about 1/2 cup water with a T. of lemon juice or in a 1/2 cup of yogurt.
Mix all dry ingredients in a large bowl. On low heat, warm the butter, coconut oil, peanut butter, vanilla and sweetener in a saucepan. Pour liquid over dry ingredients and mix well. The mixture should be wet enough to stick together but no more than that. Add more shredded coconut if the mixture is too wet. And more peanut butter or oil if too dry. Bake at 200 degrees for about an hour or until dry. Stir every half hour. Enjoy with raw milk!! Or try it with stewed apples for a treat.
While doing some research on Ayurvedic health, I came across some interesting ideas in regards to the most digestible way of drinking milk. Ani and I are now drinking our goat Zipporah’s milk. I am only milking about a 1/2 pint per day because I am only milking her in the mornings and her little buck is on her 24/7. Both Ani and I have trouble digesting cows milk, even raw. Raw goats and sheep milk seem to be much easier on us, however I have noticed that after drinking it cold, I still feel a little sickly in my throat and nose. I am hoping to find good results from the advice below by warming my milk (warm not hot…don’t want to pasteurize my milk) and adding some spices. I do enjoy a good cup of chai! And I am also looking forward to getting some kefir grains from my mom this week. Cultured dairy is much easier on the gut and sooo tasty.
When speaking of the use of milk in the diet, modern Ayurvedic commentators point out that in the West, milk is treated in ways not considered by the ancients. First, it is pasteurized and homogenized, which, all agree, create a mostly indigestible product for numerous reasons.
Second, milk is usually served cold, straight from the refrigerator. As milk is already a cold food by nature, ingesting it cold increases that quality, along with its heaviness and difficulty to digest. For those people whose own constitutions have a tendency toward coldness, slowness of metabolism and heaviness, drinking cold milk can provoke production of mucus or phlegm and slow down digestion. For anyone, however, cold milk will be something of a douse to his digestive fire. Depending on the inherent strength of one’s digestive capacities, this effect might be barely noticeable, or could produce an unpleasant heaviness in the stomach.
Third, milk is served unspiced. A simple way to mitigate the coldness and heaviness of milk is to warm it and add warming spices such as cardamom, cinnamon, cumin, black pepper or saffron. Honey, which is light and dry by nature, also balances these qualities.
Fourth, milk is often taken in excess, and in combination with other foods; notable difficult combinations are milk with fruit, leafy vegetables, fish and sour things. Milk is a complex and complete food, and is best regarded as such, rather than as a beverage to be consumed with a meal. It can be cooked successfully with other foods such as grains or in custards, where it lends many nutritive qualities in easily digested forms. The common American breakfast habit of eating cold cereal with cold milk and fruit is quite hard on the stomach, and the worst fruit to eat with milk is bananas (though sweet to the taste, they have a sour post-digestive effect, whereas milk’s is sweet).
Here in NW Montana, many refer to this time of year as Dandelion season. Our back pasture as well as every other patch of ground around town is overflowing with bright yellow Dandies. Ani and I spent some time this week collecting several plants along with their roots in order to dry and make tinctures. Regarding the health properties of Dandelions, About.com puts it simply: Dandelions are a great dietary source of calcium, vitamins A and K, plus the antioxidant lutein, which is important for healthy vision. Dandelions are natural diuretics and detoxifiers.
Thankfully my friend sent me a recent page from one of her books that depicts the “right” Dandelions to pick. See image below to be sure of what you are picking. Don’t let those “weeds” go to waste. Happy collecting!
While looking for a more natural approach for worming my new goat, Zipporah, I stumbled upon Molly’s Herbals. I am very impressed with Molly’s standards in quality and care for her livestock. Her wormer formulas can be given safely to all livestock as well as dogs and cats. Using herbs for worming instead of chemicals is a natural approach that does not disrupt an animals good flora. Also, worms can build resistance to chemical wormers while herbal formulas help build the animal’s immune system and overall health making them far stronger to fight off an abundance of worms.
Study Molly’s site and see for yourself, she has tons of hands-on-experience to add to her information! So far, I have yet to find another site so helpful for all my goat and herbs for animals questions.
Here is a fun gluten-free treat to make for lunches or quick grab snacks. Put on your apron and put you little one up to the counter, these nuggets are easy and tasty! Always feel free to adapt and create your own variety of this recipe.
In a large bowl mix together:
1 pound ground chicken
2 gloves garlic, minced
1 teaspoon sea salt
any spices you prefer, I used 3 Tb, minced cilantro, a dash of onion powder and curry
In a smaller bowl crush about 3 good handfuls of corn or rice chips (preferably non-GMO) as finely as you can with the bottom of a jar. Or crush them in a plastic bag with a rolling pin. You should have about 1 1/2 cups worth of crushed chips. Add additional sea salt to this mixture if desired.
Preheat your skillet on medium to medium high heat with 2 Tb coconut oil and 2 Tb tallow. While waiting for the skillet to heat, stir two eggs together in a small bowl. Prepare an assembly line in order to first shape small nuggets with the ground chicken mixture, next dunk the nuggets into the egg mixture and then dip thoroughly into the crushed chips. Finally place each nugget onto the skillet and allow to cook until browned and crispy on each side about 5 min. Keep the little ones far away from the skillet, maybe near the chicken mixture.
Set fried nuggets onto a paper towel until all nuggets are cooked. Enjoy with mustard or another naturally fermented or cultured dip, such as homemade Ranch dressing made with herbs and raw creme fraiche. Store in freezer or fridge and heat by re-frying them in more coconut oil or tallow. Please note: fried foods as well as corn/rice chips should be eaten as an ocassional treat. The high cooking temperatures used in making both fried foods as well as chips causes the foods to become difficult for our bodies to digest.
I’ve neglected my blog the past week because I’ve been busy, preparing fencing, stalls, and feed for the new members of our homestead. Our friend Eric gave us a nanny Pygmy/Nubian goat and her 2 day old Norwegian Dwarf/Pygmy/Nubian buck.
Zipporah & Baby Goat
After a few days getting use to her new surroundings, Zipporah and Baby Goat seen to be settling in quite well on our little patch of land. We have been spending lots of time siting near her and stroking her calmly. Ani and I sing songs, tell stories and play in the straw while Zipporah chews her cud and Baby goat prances around the barn. Today we brought the two into our fenced yard to hang out in the sun since our lawn is getting a bit long.
Since Baby Goat seemed to favor a particular teat on his mother, I decided to get right in there and learn how to milk on her other side. I’ve have been giving the milk to the chickens but tomorrow we’ll drink it ourselves, just didn’t want to drink the colostrum, since it contains blood, (colostrum is very healthy but because we eat kosher, blood is not permitted). Poor Zipporah, she has been thrown out of her groove being tossed here and there right after giving birth to her first kid. It took at least 4 milkings before she finally let down her milk for me. Using my friends advice I gave her utters a nice massage before I started to milk her and then after her flow slowed I did some more gentle rubbing. Oh and I’ve been using coconut oil on her utters for massaging, disinfecting and moisturizing.
Overall it has been quite a homesteading experience , taking time out of our usual routine to put forth “good seeds” into our two goats. We are learning so much from hands on experience, I feel so spoiled to be living this little farm dream.
My friend just sent this neat link my way and I thought it was worthy of sharing. www.Gardeners.com has provided a free garden planner tool on their site. Check it out:Free Virtual Garden Planner
In order to simplify meals in our house, for breakfasts and snacks we make up a warm bowl of gluten free porridge. Having the same thing for breakfasts may seem boring but in reality it is a comfort that never leaves me wondering “what will I make for breakfast today”? My dear husband prefers his 
When speaking of the use of milk in the diet, modern Ayurvedic commentators point out that in the West, milk is treated in ways not considered by the ancients. First, it is pasteurized and homogenized, which, all agree, create a mostly indigestible product for numerous reasons.
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